You simply have more to work with

Dating in mid 30s

Being in the moment was the ultimate way to make a girl notice you. As a girl in your thirties, you are past or moving out of your most eligible years, and should adapt your game accordingly. The emphasis was more on being unphased by the impending pressures and less on looking like you had a perfect road map.

Recognize that something is wrong. Don't be afraid of the nightlife scene. In fact, what she used to see as your strengths have now become weaknesses. An excuse about wanting to wait at your age is merely a guise for his indecision. Twenty-something women had less subtly nuanced expectations for how a guy should present himself, and, as guys, we were free to be easygoing optimists.

He just wants sex on the side and he knows he'll never have to prove his claim. And those who are already know most of this. Somewhere after being a student ends and being a man begins, we shift our focus.

Somewhere along the line you made a mistake. You need to have something to show. Once he starts to doubt his future with you, I promise that it is the beginning of the end. Read the posts explaining them the links are below this post.

But the satisfaction you were used to getting from food will soon be replaced by satisfaction from your relationships with men. In some places they are the majority. At best you will have to settle for a sloppy man who doesn't respect himself, doesn't attract you, and doesn't find you attractive.

He just wants sex on

Make it the end of the end by beating him to the punch and breaking up with him. The majority of these still apply to you. By staying or getting in shape while most other women are starting to fall off the fitness cliff, you will crush the competition.

And those who are

Dating was simpler then, even though at the time I felt like the world was being altered around every decision I made. Therefore, various aspects of these three stages - or the components of each one - are more or less important at different times in a woman's life.

The point is that confidence comes from knowing where you are and what you bring to the table, and owning it. The cards we play have changed, and the strongest hand at the table in this new game has nothing to do with bluffing. Whatever the case, you need to recognize that it is time for change. Acknowledging this is the first step towards fixing the problem - whatever it is. Not everyone is equipped to do that.